“Fix It Once and For All” Spell

I wrote this magical working for you if you have the same old problem, month after month (maybe it's a person, maybe it's a situation, maybe it's an ex . . .) and it just nags at you.

The lack of positive change toward something better in our lives can weigh us down, making us feel that nothing seems worth it.

When something is wrong for a long period of time, we tend to give up on it. We don’t really know that we’ve given up, but when nothing changes for the better, it means we’ve decided we can’t have the life we want. It seems like there are so many reasons, so many blocks, that there’s no way out.

But making things better doesn’t have to take a long time and it doesn’t have to be hard.

When you don't know what to do at all, try this.

The six steps below will seem too simple to work, but please trust me on this. Processes like this one (fine-tuned to the individual I’m working with) have changed the lives of many of my clients. And quickly.

Magical principles are hidden inside many of the following easy steps, so please try it exactly as it is below (down to even combing your hair).

Step 1: Don’t “get ready,” just do it.

Grab a piece of paper out of the trash. It can be the back of an envelope, a greasy piece of brown paper, anything. Why the trash? Why not buy a fancy journal and a special fountain pen and . . . . Because the best answers come when you don’t make things “fancy.” You just grab a scrap of paper, or write on the back of a paper towel and get it done. Getting it done fast, down and dirty is the magic here.

Step 2: If you didn’t have to worry about actually doing it, what would you do? Give your higher self 60 seconds or so to figure it out for you.

On that humble piece of paper, scribble, as messily as you can some stuff you could do to get closer to getting to a solution for whatever you’re concerned about.

Don’t write pretty. Don’t rethink anything. You just want to spew out, stream-of-unconscious, anything related to solving your problem or situation that writes itself automatically from your hand.

If you get stuck, just start drawing chicken scratch with your pencil or pen until some words come out. Nothing is too weird or offbeat to write down.

Don’t let your brain start interfering with the process. Take just 60 seconds. On the rare chance that nothing comes out onto the page, take that piece of paper with you on your day, and try again for 60 seconds later.

Cross out any ideas that may be self-defeating, self-harming, or are just the product of your feeling bad about yourself or about life.

Now you’re ready to go to Step 3.

Step 3: Just look at your list. You’re not committing to doing anything.

Now you have a messy list of some ideas. Don’t look at your list yet. First, take a few slow breaths. Okay, now look, as if this is a list belonging to someone else’s problem.

Of the things that haven’t been crossed off, which thing is harmless enough that it won't make anything worse? (That's important so that you won't be afraid to do it.) 

Is there some research you need to do? Someone you need to talk with? An errand you need to run? A chore that you can chunk down into smaller, less-intimidating pieces?

Step 4: Reset your vibe.

Don’t move into action yet. Right now, throw some water on your face and comb the bad juju out of your hair. Make some coffee or your favorite drink. This step is really important. You’re giving yourself some love and getting into a focused state to connect with your god(s)/ancestors/guides or your higher self.

Step 5: Ask for help from the guardian spirits who know you best.

Say to your god(s)/blessed ancestors/guides or your higher self: "I'm totally confused. What do you want me to see about this situation? What have you been trying to tell me all this time? I'm finally ready to listen." 

Important: No matter how serious the situation, you want to listen as calmly and peacefully as possible. You’re in the hands of the spirit guides who can really help you and who want to help you.

You don’t have to be stuck and confused about this problem forever. Don’t beg or plead or become overwrought with the stress you’ve been under. Just listen.

Step 6: Get specific.

If you sit still for a few minutes, and still don’t hear anything, then ask them:

"I'm thinking of doing this thing (tell them what you’re thinking of doing that you wrote on your list). What do you say? I'm scared and I need a sign in the next ___ minutes/hours. I love you and thank you." 

Now what?

You will get a sign.  So stay connected to and aware of divine spirit / your higher self. The next step is usually a small one. Nothing grueling or exhausting. It’s just a next step that will lead to another small step and another. Until the situation has resolved itself in the most perfect way for you.

This doesn’t mean that you won’t go through feelings of stress, pain, and sadness. But it will all be bearable and hopeful because you’ll feel certain that you’re heading in the right direction.

Repeat these steps if you feel stuck again while walking through your situation.

When you’re feeling that you’re in the midst of a difficult struggle, it’s so easy to be overwhelmed, so always go back to step one, get a piece of paper out of the trash, scribble a bunch of crazy ideas on it, straighten yourself up (wash your face and comb that hair), get that coffee, and let spirit help you.